Dating is hard when you’re in the the same town as somebody. Imagine putting a couple hundred or thousand miles into the equation and things get harder much faster. Different relationships operate differently, so you can’t say that a long distance relationship is never a good idea. They can work, but with love, it’s all about communication, being flexible, and being willing to compromise or sacrifice something you may want to make the other person happy.
If you are in a long distance relationship, or you’re curious about what it would be like to date somebody from a different race, culture, or religious background and you want to make the long distance aspect of things work, here are some tips:
As if you could really do anything else in an online format, one trick is to start slow. Don’t go into a long distance relationship with any crazy expectations. You’re there to branch out, maybe talk to somebody different than what you’re used to, and that’s all for now. Don’t go into the conversation talking about marriage and how many children you want. Get to know the person on a basic level and take it from there. You’re going off of interests and personality online, so it’s actually nice that the physical aspects of things don’t convolute a situation.
Video Chat Often
Long distance relationships are subject to weird things that don’t happen when you’re dating somebody close to home and in person. If you’re familiar with the show Catfish, you’ll know exactly what we’re getting at. If you meet somebody online, fine, but don’t let them get away with only texting and messaging you over the internet. Get them on video chat fast, and often. It’s important to see somebody’s face, not only to validate their identity, but also to get familiar with them in other ways.
Plan A Rendezvous
When the relationship has progressed to the point that you feel like the next step is to meet in person, there is no harm in planning a place to rendezvous. If you want to make sure the environment is extra safe, each of you could invite a friend along on the meeting. The point is, you’ve established a relationship, you’ve seen them over video enough that they’re not a stranger, you can then feel good enough to plan to meet up with them to see if bigger steps need to be taken.
It doesn’t have to be hard. There will be challenges, and it sucks not being with a person face to face, but long distance allows you to build a foundation of friendship over lust or physical attraction, and that speaks measures.